By Caroline Rice
Are you moving on too fast? This seems to be a simple and easy concept to understand, but in reality, when do you actually know if you’re moving on too fast. When you lose a family member or a close friend, people say, "Oh," like you’ll move on eventually or just don’t dwell on it, you’ll get over it. But this isn’t the case in some situations. People want closure from a traumatic event. They don’t want someone to say, "It was a long time ago. You should be over that now." People tend to take the discouraging advice and feel the need to get over that grief quickly and timely. They feel the need to get over it so no one thinks they are just a sad, depressing sob story who can’t get over things.
Grieving is a long and painful process that you can’t just get over in a few months. Know I’m not saying to just do anything you want and be depressed for the rest of your life, but I am saying that you shouldn’t expect yourself or other people to move on from a hard time in a few months and be perfectly fine after. Some people handle grief differently and can move on quicker than others, and that’s also perfectly fine. Some people can move fast just because they feel the need to and don’t want to feel that pitbull of sadness. But people shouldn’t be doing that. It’s good to express your emotions, even if they're sad emotions. You shouldn’t build up your emotions quickly so you can forget.
I know from personal experience when my family lost of one my grandparents, my mom had a hard time. She knew how to deal with it, but she didn’t hide her emotions. She took her time to deal with her grief and didn’t want to move on fast just to not feel the feeling again.
So my point is that you shouldn’t let other people peer pressure you to move on from a hard time or even a change in your life. It’s important to let out your emotions and take your time to recover from a time of grief. Are you moving on too fast?